Personal Values System
The Best Gift to Your Child:
Acquire a Strong Personal Value System
We all want the same things for our kids. We want our children to grow up to love and be loved, to follow their dreams, to find success. Mostly, though, parents want their children to be happy.
However, some children have the wrong idea that happiness can be found in wealth, celebrity, power, and physical attractiveness.
By understanding how happiness develops, you can help your children find true happiness. The real causes of happiness are all within your children’s control so they can actively do things that foster their own happiness. The best gift that parents can give to the children is to let them acquire a strong personal value system.
Values in life or culture means beliefs about what is right
and wrong and what is important in life.
Values play a vital role in the success of a person.
A personal value system is a set of principles or ideals
that drive and/or guide a person’s behaviour.
The personal value system gives a person structure and purpose by helping him/her determine what is meaningful and important.
It helps your child express who he/she is and what he/she stands for. If our children are unaware of, or become disconnected with their values, they end up making choices out of impulse or instant gratification rather than on solid reasoning and responsible decision-making.
Without values or beliefs, our children would be mechanical-like beings, driven here and there by and compelled to action solely by their urges and passions. This is why it is so important to know what they value and what is important to them.
Now you see why values are so important for the success of your child’s life? Your child’s values affect his/her decisions sometimes unconsciously as well as consciously. If your child value truth (honesty), he/she will always tell the truth which will attract many people who value truth. If your child is a liar, he/she will attract people of the same value. That will affect the child’s life or career.
The 10 Character Traits
The following are some character traits that parents may consider building into the child’s personal value system – the list is not meant to be exhaustive and serves only as a guide.
1. Be Honest. Tell the truth; be sincere; don’t mislead or withhold key information in relationships of trust; don’t steal.
2. Demonstrate integrity. Stand up for your beliefs about right and wrong; be your best self; resist social pressure to do wrong.
3. Keep promises. Keep your word and honor your commitments; pay your debts and return what you borrow.
4. Be loyal. Stand by family, friends, employers, community and country; don’t talk about people behind their backs.
5. Be responsible. Think before you act; consider consequences; be accountable.
6. Pursue excellence. Do your best with what you have; don’t quit easily. Be positive and adopt good attitude.
7. Be kind and caring. Show you care through generosity and compassion; don’t be selfish or mean.
8. Treat all people with respect. Be courteous and polite; judge all people on their merits; be tolerant, appreciative and accepting of individual differences.
9. Be fair. Treat all people fairly; be open-minded; listen to others and try to understand what they are saying and feeling.
10. Be a good citizen. Obey the law and respect authority; vote, volunteer your efforts; protect the environment.
These principles are also an excellent basis for developing a Personal Value System. They can help your child develop solid friendships, a good career and a foundation of good reputation and integrity.
How do we help the young to develop these good values?
The following are some strategies we propose that will help to develop values:
1. Develop in your child the love of learning and reading.
2. Mastermind Group
3. Getting a Mentor
4. Make Reading a Habit
5. Turn Off the Television and other time wasters like electronic games machines
It is not unusual to say that the child’s mind is like a sheet of white paper and is susceptible to every impression. Parents have the power and the responsibility to provide their child the right impression and exposure to inculcate the right values and acquire a strong personal value system.